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Validation, Judgment, and the Grace of Letting Others Be
We’re all out here screaming into the void, seeking validation from strangers who don’t even know our story. And you know what? That’s...

Kela Stubbs
Sep 43 min read


From Burnout to Self-Permission: My Projector Awakening
It started with a casual conversation at work about astrology. A guest mentioned Human Design, and while I'd heard of it before, I'd...

Kela Stubbs
Aug 236 min read
Unfinished at 40+
At 41, I find myself in a familiar place of uncertainty. I’m not offering polished insights or pretending I have answers. I want to share...

Kela Stubbs
Aug 162 min read


Fashioning Healing: How Style Became My Mental Health Language
written by: Kela Stubbs Myself being stylish as ever Hey y'all. As July comes to a close, it's worth reflecting on National Minority...

Kela Stubbs
Jul 318 min read


WE THE CHILDREN:
America the Infantile, and the Spectacle of a Nation That Refuses to Grow Up America, America We have a problem! There’s a disturbing...

Kela Stubbs
Jul 254 min read


Personal Expression: Navigating Identity and Culture
Welcome to Effortless Expressions =================================== Where showing up as yourself is the assignment. Every time. Welcome...

Kela Stubbs
Jun 262 min read


“Seen by Whom?”: A Psychological Breakdown of Black Dandyism, The Met Gala, and the Performance of Visibility
I watched the Met Gala this year, waiting to see how the theme would unfold. Black dandyism, an aesthetic rooted in resistance, swagger,...

Kela Stubbs
Jun 265 min read


We Weren’t Just Celebrating. We Were Remembering Ourselves.
Let me start here: I don’t trust anybody who says fashion doesn’t matter. That’s a cute opinion, until you’ve had to rearrange yourself...

Kela Stubbs
Jun 267 min read
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